Surgery On The Horizon

I am now officially a patient of Braverman Reproductive Immunology. Last week, I sent an email to my local clinic telling them I would not be proceeding with my planned IVF. I felt legit sad writing this email, as I’ve become quite attached to everyone there. They are a class act — kind, compassionate and just generally awesome. But alas, it is time to start a new chapter.

That new chapter begins next week. Bright and early Wednesday morning I’ll head to Braverman’s NYC office to have blood drawn for immune testing. 15 vials of blood, to be exact. I asked. The lab rep was like, “Wellll, I usually don’t like to tell people this ahead of time, but…”

Tim is getting three vials drawn, by the way. A mere three.

After bloodwork, I will meet with the surgeon. He’s going to check out the blood flow to my uterus using a doppler ultrasound. I told my boss about this today and she was all, “Oooh, will it be like a weather map?” I don’t know the answer to that, but I sure hope so. Uterine weather map! Just what every gal’s always wanted. Anyway, apparently this doppler ultrasound can help detect endometriosis. Based on that and the rest of the examination, he’ll assess whether I need surgery — if I do, I’ll get it the next day. Unless he’s like, “Hey girl, you do not need surgery. You have the prettiest uterine blood flow I’ve ever seen,” I think I’m going to go ahead with it. I’d really like to know beyond a shadow of a doubt if I have endometriosis.

After surgery, if it ends up happening, Tim and I will stay in a hotel for a couple of nights while I recover. Staying in a hotel near New York isn’t cheap, so we’re pretending it’s a mini vacation. This “romantic getaway” will be our birthday present to each other this year (we both have birthdays in the summer). Surgical vacations, guys. They’re all the rage! Seriously, though, I’m kind of looking forward to a few quiet nights in a hotel, even though I’ll likely be in pain and doped up on opiates. I’ve clearly lost my mind.

That’s about all I got. I won’t actually meet Dr. Braverman this visit (or maybe never, as we will likely get our immune testing results over Skype), so that’s kind of a bummer. If you could send good thoughts my way on Thursday, the day of surgery, I will love you forever. Well, ok, I already love you forever, but I promise to love you forever-er.

54 thoughts on “Surgery On The Horizon

  1. Good Luck! Honestly, the worst part about the surgery is the gas they put in you (can’t remember the reason for this). That was the worst of the pain for me, not the incisions. It went away after 2-3 days.

    1. The gas is to give the surgeon room and reduce risk of damaging other organs. At least that’s my recollection from when I did med mal defence work. Expect to look pregnant gem it and feel worse – what a mindf**k, right?

  2. Always thinking of you, lovely lady. Here’s hoping you get the answers you need too. 15 freaking vials though. Woah. I hope they give you a tonne of jellybeans after that.

  3. I will be thinking of you. I hope you get some clarity. What a big commitment to be making, but it will all be worth it if you can add to your family at the end of this. Keep up the bravery and I will keep cheering for you! Maybe you can at least get some nice room service and a couple nights’ sleep in a to-die-for NYC bed. 😉

    1. Thank you so much! I would love to get some clarity. And, ha, we are staying in a motel in New Jersey, but I am going to pretend it’s fancy anyway! 🍴🍷🍮🍝🍤

    1. I would love to meet up if there is an opportunity! I’m guessing after surgery I’ll feel like meh (plus, we are staying in North Bergen and not in the city since the hospital is in Hoboken), but maybe Weds could work since it’ll be before surgery and we’ll be in the city. Will you shoot me an email at We can talk details!

  4. I believe you are in good hands, with the most competent doctor at your side. I am wishing you the absolute best and hoping you get the results you want, whatever that is for you.
    P.S. We pretended our trip to NYC to see Dr B was also a mini vacation. And in many ways it was.

    1. Thank you, my friend! Although it’s weird to hope that they find endometriosis, I kind of hope they find it, because then at least I will have answers. And regardless of what happens from that point on, I won’t have to wonder why anymore. I’m starting to get so nervous for the surgery, though. Hospitals make me squeamish!

      1. That is so similar to how we felt – we just needed an answer. Any answer based in scientific fact would allow us to move forward one way or another.
        Thinking of you and hoping the surgery is quick and the recovery is relatively easy.

  5. Soooo much blood hehe but if it helps it is worth it! I will be sending you so many good vibes on Thursday, and Friday because I don’t know the one difference but regardless I will make sure I am thinking of you. Because I want to be loved forever-er. 😉 and of course want a fabulous outcome for you. I do have a good feeling though. X

      1. Good luck today lovely lady (it’s Thursday night here so I think almost Thursday morning?). I hope we get some excellent answers from this investigative surgery. Can’t wait to hear how it goes. Please look after yourself. X

  6. This is hilarious tan, and I agree with rayplaag02, completely sounds like spunky go get it done tanya (not unlike rockstar peggy:)

    I’m obvi rooting for you tim and lets, always am:)

    Nyc city or bust!

  7. Ha ha, surgery vacations! All the rage indeed! Your post makes it sound like you’ve gotten some new energy and hope from switching to Dr. Braverman, which is really nice to read. Glad things are moving for you!

    1. Thank you! I do feel a little more hopeful, or maybe it’s just that I feel more at peace. Regardless of what they find or don’t find, I believe this is the right path for me to take. I sure do hope the find something, though, just so I can have a $&@55;: answer!

  8. Boohoo! I love a bit of surgery… think it’s because I have unerring faith in medical science and it makes me think they’re fixing stuff! And any excuse for some sojourn to the Big Apple! Best wishes for your trip! 🙂

  9. I will be sending you positive energy and much love next Wednesday and Thursday. The Doppler ultrasounds do kind of look like a weather map though I never thought of that before. They detect heat/activity and when it’s detected show reds, blues, other colours. I’ve had a crapload of them at the start of this pg’y in the same u/s as you’re getting (it’s EV by the way in case no one warned you), in first tri to watch for vascularization and placental development by checking blood flow to it and in the second and third trimesters to check for umbilical cord flow to watch for any signs of reduction which could spell stillbirth or other trouble for baby. They are pretty useful diagnostically I think but not a guarantee of course as almost nothing in medicine is.

    Okay, enough comments from me already!

    1. Thank you! And ha, I was just assuming the ultrasound was EV because that’s how it goes in fertility land — they like to torture us at every turn! I’m so anxious to see what tomorrow brings! I’ll send you an email update once I have more info.

  10. So glad you are switching and getting the answers you need. I am so intrigued by this doppler to detect endometriosis, I suspect this is new technology or a new diagnostic method? I couldn’t have been more lucky with the way our first transfer went, obviously, but this is sort of the one thing I regret about our diagnostic period…not pushing for confirmation of suspected endometriosis. Hoping, praying you get the answers you need to move forward with a better outcome!

    1. Thanks, lady! I’m not sure about the Doppler. I guess it’s new? I had never heard of it before I started hearing people talking about Dr. B. I’m really wishing I get some answers. I hope they find something on Thursday, although it’s weird to hope I have endometriosis!

      1. I would what you mean, but if the suspicion and symptoms are there, it would be such a relief to finally rule out or clearly diagnose. My thing is, even though I got pregnant through IVF and that seems to be the answer to our infertility woes, I still may face a lifetime of dealing with awful endo symptoms that may worsen as I age and make life harder. I want to know, so I’m not just blindly taking BCPs for the rest of my premenopausal life just to control something I’m not sure exists. I want to know if I don’t, what consequences might I face? So, I may be demanding the exploratory laparoscopic procedure after I give birth and stop nursing.

  11. This is great news! Dr B works on the same principles as the doctor who I’m seeing in the uk, so you might have similar treatment to me.

    Really hoping that he recommends a great treatment plan for you and that it works. The treatment can be quite gruelling, but it’ll so be worth it if it works out! Lots of love and hope you enjoy NYC 🙂 xx

    1. Yes, we will have to compare notes when/if I get a treatment plan. I am soooo curious to see what the immune testing shows up. I’m so hoping for some answers!

  12. I’m sure it’s been said before, but I can’t get the Parenthood tv show out of my head when you say Braverman. Thinking good thoughts your way and praying that the opiates are good to you and recovery goes well!

  13. Wishing you the very best of luck for Thursday. Sending love, hugs and good vibes! I will be thinking about you. xo

  14. Idk what sounds worse: surgical vacation in NYC or going down the shore with 20,000 other maniac drivers packed like sardines. Hmm. Wishing you the best, and especially interested in this Doppler u/s for endo. Will def be checking for your update 🙂

  15. I’ll be thinking of you this week. Prayers all goes well. And a surgical vacation sounds like just as much fun as a beta hell getaway. Oh, the things we do in the name of growing our family!

  16. Wow! All sounds very exciting and I love that you’re treating it as a holiday if you need surgery – and why the hell not? A holiday with a purpose is the best kind 🙂 Sending you lots of good vibes for a successful visit and hopefully some answers. Oh – and for a fantastic weather map of your uterus! Xxx

  17. 15 vials? Zowie! Enjoy NYC. It’s been ages since I’ve been there. Before starting this mess I never considered how vacations get totally effed up, but here it is summer and we can’t plan a thing.

  18. Surgery vacations, haha! Oh the joys of this journey! Holy moly, that’s a lot of vials of blood they’re going to get from you! Hope you’re able to enjoy NYC a little! As always, I’m keeping you in my prayers, my friend!

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